Its probably a good idea to start explaining a little more about our family. We are an animal mad family made up of three humans. (myself, my husband and our son) and our Jack (russell) pack, a parrot, 3 cats and some chickens.
Our 14 year old son suffers with Aspergers and OCD and for the past 2 years we have been part of the PAWS (parents autism workshops and support) programme at Dogs for the Disabled. The programme offers parents of autistic children the chance to train a pet dog to assist/support the child. We have found it hugely beneficial and as we already had a dog our son has a great bond with it seemed like a sensible step to take. People often underestimate the bond between autistic child and dog, there is an understanding there between them that seems to transcend the difference in species. Dogs just don't judge people the way other humans do and from a parents perspective there is a lot to be learned from dogs as we have often found the way you deal with a dog (training methods, routine etc) uses similar strategies to dealing with a child with autism. Everything is methodical and step by step breaking it down to its fundamentals and building on them. I always say that Christians dog Obi is naturally tuned into his moods, its not something we've trained- heck we wouldn't know how! but they have a great bond. I will post something that i posted on facebook recently that i think sums it up nicely;
''Obi and Christian have such a great bond, they are best friends and despite Christian struggling to show concern and emotion to us and other humans he has no difficulty expression compassion and care for obi. Obi is really intuitive and picks up on Christians moods (often before we do). Its not something we've trained (we wouldn't know how!) its an instinct thing, we like to think its obis way of being there for his 'best mate'. Being a terrier, obi is full of personality, loving but exuberant about all life has to offer, what ever he faces he does so with gusto. Hes a good dog, but far from perfect-lol. In a way i think that helps him and christian get along, we can laugh at obis antics and christian can see that its ok to be a little 'odd' sometimes and not perfect, obis enthusiasm is quite infectious and i think he shows us all that when life slaps you down, stand up, brush yourself down , kick grass over it and walk on:-)''
We could never replace Obi or what he does for Christian but as Christian has grown we have realised there are some areas that Obi cant help Christian but where Christian could benefit from a support dog with a slightly less exuberant personality. Obi is fantastic but can get excitable round other dogs and some people, he likes to explore new environments. Christian is leaving school in 2 years and we would like him to gain some independence. It would be nice for him to be able to travel on buses and trains. This is something he finds very stressful but when Obi is with him he more is relaxed and focused on Obi. Obi's exuberance means we need to be with them to reign Obi in when he gets over excited and he will be 10 when Christian leaves school.
With this in mind and after nearly a years contemplation and research we made the decision to look for a Labrador puppy who will be trained over the next 2 years in preparation for his/her role as a support dog. Getting a new dog is always a gamble and there is never a guarantee he or she would bond with our existing dogs or that they would be the right personality to work with Christian. It was also important to us that Christian knew that Obi would always be his dog and would not be replaced. With such importance being placed on the future role for the puppy we went about seeking out as much information as possible by contacting as many people as possible- PAWS, behaviourists, lab owners, breeders, trainers, kennel club. We found a line we like that sound of. They had had success as assistance dogs, had sound temperaments, good health scores and were a nice cross of show and working lines. We picked a couple of breeders and went on the waiting list. We were told that due to the selective nature of the line and the fact that the breeders were hobby breeders (just the occasional litters from family pets) that we could have a good while to wait One evening about 5 weeks later i was looking at the website of the line and noticed that someone had pulled out of getting their puppy at the last minute and that there was a single 8 weeks old chocolate lab girl left from a litter. My heart skipped a beat as i emailed the breeder to see if she was still available- she was! We arranged to go and visit her the next day.
We were trying to be very sensible. We went armed with questions, planned to see the papers and mother and were adament we were 'just looking' ..................our sensibility dissolved the minute we set eyes on the fluffy, cuddly bundle of skin and fur sat before us! we did eventually ask our questions and managed to go home without having committed one way or the other, however, we both secretly knew it was a done deal. I couldn't wait until the next day so contacted the breeder that evening to say that we would like to collect her the next day.
So the next day after pretty much buying out Pets at home i went and picked up the gorgeous Pansy (a name we didn't really feel matched her bold personality). We decided to stick with the flower theme and Pansy became Poppy. We nervously introduced her to Obi and our other Jacks and it soon became very clear that she would fit right in.
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Christian and Obi. |